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Secrets to Dating a Married Man

Now even though I dont condone this behavior but this week me and my friends was talking about this subject and I hope that person read my blog. I happen to find this on another site and what she wrote made alot of sense. So for you sisters out there that are dealing with a marry man please read.

This is my list of how to date someone that is married and keep your sanity and also, how to make him yours!
Never forget the reality of the situation. He is married. At the end of the day, he goes home to his wife and you sleep alone.
Take things as they come, don’t ever press for answers or change.
Don’t cut yourself off from the dating world. If someone catches your eye and he is available, go for it.
Never make ultimatums that you don’t intend to follow through on.
Share with someone that you trust. It can be very isolating because of the inherent secrecy and people’s judgments.
Don’t chase him, let him come to you.
Do not become a stalker. You gain nothing by driving by his house and the like.
Don’t settle with this. If you need or want more from a relationship go out and get it.
Don’t expect anything and you won’t be disappointed, but you may be pleasantly surprised.
He isn’t committing to you, so don’t commit to him.
Never judge his wife, you are not in her shoes and you don’t know her side.
Don’t get pregnant or fake a pregnancy in order to force change.
Never bring up something about you and he in the distant future. Planning for next week is fine, but planning that Spring vacation is taboo.
Become a good listener and that includes noticing body language.
Be positive as much as possible.
16. Never, never push.
Don’t ask questions that you may not like the answers too.
Make the time that you have special.

Juicey Couture bus in Hong kong

I so loving this bus. I came across this on facebook and thought to share this with you guys.

Why the Black Woman is Goddess

Ok I came across this on a forum and thought to share this information.

I have through my years in this nation heard many individuals within our nation espouse that the blackwoman is not a goddess. Understanding is the product of the knowledge one procures directly through the wisdom that they either hear or witness, so each person understanding, the picture that they develop in the realms of their own minds is theirs and cannot be denied. Borning universal truth, my understanding, view and perspective of the blackwoman...my blackwomen is far removed from that.

To infer that the Blackwoman, the mother of civilization, is not inherently a goddess is to rob and deny her the divine, august and lofty title that is hers by birthright. God is the Supreme Being, supreme meaning the highest in rank, power and authority. Being is the stateor quality of existing. Now analyze the components that comprise the totality of the Blackman as God, then shift your focus to scrutinize the Blackwoman. The same elements are extant within her physical and mental framework to support her claim to supremacy and divinity.

Supreme being is a term that is a gender neutral proclaimation - when applied to the male factor of life the connotation is that of "God", borning universal truth, the same term applied to the female factor of life is indeed "Goddess".

Now the relationship of the Blackman and Blackwoman has been born to us in a celestial model. The Blackman is symbolic to the sun, while the Blackwoman is mentally symbolic to the moon and physically symbolic to the Earth. Now the sun is the prime motivator of life within the context of our Solar System/Universe. The Earth is the recipient of the life forces radiated and generated by the Sun which it utilizes for myriad effects. As we become more discerning in our examination of this relationship - the Earth in the role and capacity that it exists in of the sole receiver and utilizer of the forces and energies of the Sun in effect allows the Sun to be the prime motivator of Life - for without the presence and existence of the Earth, there would be no life. What this culminates in is that the Earth in essence gives purpose to the Sun. Purpose is simply the aim or goal to which one strives or for which one exists. The sun exists to cultivate, nourish and activate life, the earth allows that aim to be realized.

It is said the a civilization will advance only as far as its women do - this is an addage we should heed. The continued perpetuation of this disenfranchising doctrine culminates in the establishment of unnecessary limitations which are neither warranted nor substantiated (I say disenfranchising for the reason that this ideology deprives our Blackwoman of an attribute which I cee as being an inherent right of theirs).

The natural corollary to the Blackman as God is the Blackwoman as Goddess. Is it consistency or contridiction when we teach our Blackwomen that they are the mothers of civilization, that they are the crown jewel of our nation, unmatched in beauty, grace and wisdom by any other, that they are the sole vehicle for the emergence and physical birth of the fruit of our nation - the black child. We teach them that they are Queens, who have knowledged god and are equipped to build alongside god to rule and guide the kingdom justly and wisely. This Queen, though, is the conterpart as well as the companion to the king(who is god) and in his absence is well and duly qualified to rule the kingdom ( counterpart is one that closely resembles another and has some of the same functions and characteristics). To teach our Blackwomen all the above and more in regards to themselves and their latent powers and abilities, to give examples and make reference to the illustrious contributions, accomplishments and monuments left throughout history left by Original Women...to scrutinize the level of intestinal fortitude displayed by our Beautiful Black Women just during our plight here in the Wilderness of North Amerikkka....for us to instill and enhance them with all of this knowledge and then do an about face and say.."Now the Blackman is God, but his chosen and only possible mate the Blackwoman is not a Goddess", to I is a statement steeped in contridiction - I personally am not contridictory.

-universal7

Ludacris "My Chick Bad" Remix Ft: Trina, Eve, and Diamond

Aww look at Diddy kids and friend of the family

Look what I found here are pictures of diddys kids with a friend of the family they look so much like there dad.

Is the average single black woman really worth just $5

Most of us have already known about the wealth gap along racial and gender lines, but now a very disturbing new study actually puts a bright spotlight on the problem. The new report by the Insight Center for Community Economic Development, formerly the National Economic Development and Law Center (NEDLC) called Lifting as We Climb: Women of Color, Wealth and America's Future shows that while women of all races earn less income and have less wealth than their male counterparts, black women are severely at a disadvantage.

Wealth is generally determined by one's total assets minus debts. According to the report, single, middle age white women have a median wealth of $42,600, which is still about 60 percent of single white men; the median wealth for single black women is only $5. Married white women have a median wealth of $167,500, but married black women have a median worth of $31,500.

I'm not surprised by these findings. While the economic disparities are complex, there are some clear reasons for the gap. Black women are more likely to be in careers that that pay less and offer little to no health insurance or retirement plans, which contribute to their debt problems. Over 40 percent of black women are single, making us the financial backbones for our families.

The study was conducted before the current recession, but clearly the decade long sub-prime loan crisis has stretched the wallets of many black women. In addition, jobless rates for both black women and men are nearly double the national unemployment average.

If this report doesn't prove that America is nowhere close to being "post racial," then I don't know what will. President Obama has said he wants to deal with the social ills affecting the black community without actually framing them as black problems. For the last year, he has promoted the idea that the stimulus plan will save Americans of all racial backgrounds.

Nonetheless, a report from the Kirwan Institute for the Study of Race and Ethnicity says just the opposite, stating that the "stimulus did not go far enough in terms of marginalized communities, and it lacked transparency and accountability in regard to racial equity." In addition, the report states that the stimulus has not properly established an infrastructure that would help enable blacks to find jobs.

However, some black leaders have recently met with the president about the need to have a jobs bill for African-Americans. After reading these studies, I am convinced that in order to close the wealth gap, there need to be policies that not only specifically address these problems by race, but also by gender.

There seems to be no end in sight for this recession, but if there was more focus on better supporting marginalized groups, it would be beneficial for putting the country back on the right track.

Nicki Minaj, Welcome to the Dollhouse

Yeah Yeah I just wrote a post about Nicki being Diss but you got to give her credit. She got to be doing right.

Now the only problem I got is will there be a copyright case soon with the Barbie logo?

Nicki Minaj get dissed by a YouTube Baltimore chick

Ok so this was brought to my attention that this chick Rapper Keys from Baltimore, MD did a youtube video of dissing Nicki Minaj. Ok I will give her credit but she need to realize she not the first nor will be the last to do a diss rap about another artist. Do you baby girl. I hope that oneday you will succeed in this rap game so stay on your true A-game.

Black boys are too feminised by Tony Sewell

Martin, a mixed-race 15-year-old south Londoner, had just downed half a bottle of vodka. The boy was already known for attention-seeking, bad behaviour and aggressively challenging authority figures. But in his drunken state, with his inhibitions gone, he wasn't more threatening. He was crying – violently sobbing – for his father. "I want my dad. It's not fair. I've only spoken to him once on the phone. Why does he hate me? I fucking want to see him now."

Martin was taking part in a residential summer camp run by my charity, which takes black boys and offers them educational coaching and mentoring. Martin had smuggled in the alcohol without us realising. Raised by a single white mother, he had never known his dad.

Higher education minister David Lammy today appealed for black fathers to become more involved with their children. He is aware, as I am, of the devastating consequences of absent fatherhood within the black community: 59% of black Caribbean children live in lone-parent households, compared with 22% of white children.

Another boy at camp couldn't get along with the others; he told me that he loved fighting and displayed an excessive amount of attention-seeking. The headteachers of each boy's school – who were also both black – told me that the mothers blamed school for making their sons behave badly. The heads spoke of a personal dislike shown by the students, which they reported as a wider dislike of black male authority. When the boys did open up at camp, it was to our female staff whom they felt they could trust.

Psychologists have known for some time that children's attachment to fathers and mothers derives from different sets of early social experiences. Specifically, mothers provide security when the child is distressed, whereas fathers provide reassuring play partners. As part of our orientation we played a simple game called Trust; I stood behind Martin who had to blindly fall into my arms. He refused to do it.

Typically, this kind of tough play love would never come from his mother. Instead of allowing him to fall, she would probably grab him from behind and whisper in his ear: "This game, it's too dangerous; I'll buy you a PlayStation instead." A typical father would say: "Come on, son, fall. I'm behind and you'd better not look back."

We have been running summer camps for five years: boys are taken from their familiar environment and work on high-level science projects at universities. All the boys have bucked the trend for inner-city African-Caribbeans, scoring an average of nine high-grade GCSEs.

When we set up the programme, we had high aspirations to nurture the next generation of black Britain's intellectual best. However, our academic ideals soon became secondary; many of the boys, once freed from the arms of their single mothers, suddenly had to cope with a world run by adult black males – figures in their lives who were mostly absent, unreliable, despised by their mothers, and usually unsuccessful.

These boys kicked up against us. It was like we were their dads who had walked out of their lives, and suddenly we demanded their respect.

More than racism, I now firmly believe that the main problem holding back black boys academically is their over-feminised upbringing. First, because with the onset of adolescence there is no male role model to provide guidance and lock down the destructive instincts that exist within all males. Second, in the absence of such a figure a boy will seek out an alternative. This will usually be among dominant male figures, all too often found in gangs. This is the space where there is a kind of hierarchy, a ritual and, of course, a sense of belonging.

We have wasted years, and lives, looking in the wrong direction as to the causes of crime and education failure. We've had endless studies attempting to prove institutional racism – while all along our boys' psychological needs weren't met.

The current government policy of rolling out role models to black youngsters is another attempt to externalise the problem that lies within. It has left us with little research and knowledge about a group that gets kicked out of school the most. Meanwhile, the black family continues to disintegrate and it seems no one dares say a word